4 Year Old Soccer Players

My daughter plays on a 4 year old soccer team. The coordination and common sense that you need to play soccer is not there yet. When I played, you had to be in 1st grade to start. Now, with the competition so strong, the earlier the better. this makes for some really bad soccer and confused kids who have no idea what they are doing. Of course, my wife is the enthusiastic screamer who constantly encourages the squid to go the right way and don't shoot on your own goal. After I tell the wife to calm down and quit being one of "those" parents, all she does is give me the "go to hell" look. Whatever?